Non-traditional wedding ceremonies for modern couples.
Filled with meaning, fun and emotion, and created especially for you!
Your ideal wedding ceremony…
Isn’t one that feels like it could have been just anybody's wedding ceremony...
You want a personalised wedding or civil partnership ceremony, not just a template with your names (often incorrectly) inserted here and there.
You want an inclusive, heartfelt, non-traditional wedding ceremony, where you feel comfortable, supported, and celebrated for who you are!
A fun, wedding ceremony that’s meaningful, not mawkish. A ceremony you enjoy, and feel fabulously surrounded by love!
You want a wedding ceremony that reflects you both perfectly, that sets the tone for your celebration and your future. Not a ceremony that feels like the ‘bit you get through’ before the real celebration can start.
You want a wedding ceremony that could only ever be yours!
A relaxed, heartfelt wedding ceremony, created especially for you.
Imagine a wedding ceremony where…
It’s crafted and curated exclusively for you, a perfect fit.
Every word, every action and every moment has been chosen by you. Nothing outdated, uncomfortable or irrelevant, there because you feel you ‘should’.
You can actually breathe, stay present, and feel surrounded by love, rather than like you’re performing for a crowd.
You can truly enjoy yourselves. It doesn’t feel like a formality, but instead a warm, meaningful, wholehearted celebration.
You’re equally excited about your ceremony as the party that follows!
A non-religious wedding ceremony is still filled with meaning.
A non-traditional wedding ceremony can still feel familiar!
Ready for a ceremony that truly reflects you?
This is all possible with a Humanist wedding ceremony.
I specialise in creating warm, joyful, non-traditional ceremonies for couples who want to start their future in a way that’s more meaningful and enjoyable than with a ‘standard template’ that doesn’t quite feel like them!
From your initial enquiry to the celebratory burst of confetti, I make sure that your wedding or civil partnership ceremony is less of ‘the usual’, and a whole lot more YOU.
Naomi & Vicky - South West London
“Everyone's been raving about how beautiful and unique the ceremony was. And we've had several guests tell us it's the first time they haven't zoned out during a ceremony (high praise! 😂). Thank you so much for making it so special and meaningful for us.”
Dennis & Katie - West London
“The ceremony was so warm and romantic. You're like a close friend, with the calm confidence to bring everyone together!"
My fee for your individually-crafted ceremony is £1000.
You’re investing in a wedding that is completely personal to you. So start the celebrations with a ceremony just as meaningful and unique as the rest of your day, led by a professionally accredited celebrant with years of experience.
Here’s what my service includes:
Before your big day:
A no-obligation ‘connection call’ before booking, so we can double-check we’re a good match.
My collection of wedding planning resources and ideas, a great way to start thinking about your ceremony.
A couple’s wed-meet, where we chat all about you, your story and how you want your wedding ceremony to feel, so I can get writing!
I’m available throughout your wedding planning to answer questions, bounce ideas around and advise on hugely talented wedding suppliers that reflect real diversity.
An individually-crafted, lovingly-created ceremony script, written by me, but completely, uniquely yours.
A ‘Final Details’ call, to reconfirm and reassure with a top-up of moral support!
Plus, I can support with vow writing too.
On your big day:
I’m exclusively yours - I only book one civil partnership or wedding ceremony per weekend, I’m totally focused on you!
I’ll expertly lead your civil partnership or wedding ceremony with warmth & joy.
Travel within London, and into Kent, Sussex & Surrey. I happily travel further afield and will confirm additional costs before you book.*
Full public liability and professional indemnity insurance and quality assurance via Humanists UK.
*If the journey time to your ceremony is 2 .5 hours or more, I’ll need to include a local stay the night before. I’ll always chat to you first, though.
After your big day:
A keepsake ceremony script for you to look back on, plus a couple of little extra mementoes.
I donate 5% of every booking to charity. I’m supporting Bromley & Croydon Women’s Aid (BCWA). *From April 2025, in response to the Supreme Court’s attack on Trans rights, couples can now choose between BCWA, or Not a Phase, a Trans-led charity uplifting the UK Trans Community.
When you choose a Non-traditional, Humanist Wedding Ceremony, you…
Have a truly personalised, non-religious wedding ceremony that reflects and celebrates the real you.
Can celebrate your non-traditional wedding ANYWHERE you like!
Can involve little ones, loved ones, and fur-babies as much or as little(!) as you want!
Can include symbolic rituals to reflect you both. A Humanist Wedding Ceremony is still filled with meaning!
Know that as your Humanist wedding celebrant, I always have your back.
Avoid wedding conveyor belts, I’m focused purely on your wedding ceremony!
Five steps to your fabulous, personal, wedding ceremony
What happens when you book me to craft, create and lead your humanist wedding ceremony?
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Finding a humanist wedding celebrant is a really personal choice. Before you book, let’s catch up for a chat about your wedding plans (usually, this will be over Zoom). We’ll have a proper chat to get to know each other, talk about your ideal wedding ceremony, and what you both want your non-traditional wedding ceremony to feel like. You’ll also get an insight into what it’s like to work with me, and I can answer any questions, especially about making a non-religious ceremony meaningful and joyful.
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If you decide that I’m the wedding celebrant for you (yay!!) I'll send some Terms & Conditions, so we have a written agreement. I’ll also take a deposit to secure us both. I’m a serial monogamist, I only book one wedding per day, so once we confirm the date, I’m all yours!
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Next, we’ll have a couple’s wed-meet, where I really get to know you both. I’ll get the key facts sorted, then we can focus on your love story, what made you both want to say I do, as well as more details on what is most important to make your wedding ceremony feel comfortable and enjoyable!
From vows and promises to rituals and ring-bearers, I’ll guide you to make sure your non-traditional wedding feels exactly that…Yours! Whether you know exactly what you want or you’re struggling with where to begin, I can suggest readings, poems or symbolic elements to bring your non-religious wedding ceremony to life (and if that’s already making you cringe, I’ll create something pared back and beautifully simple.) -
I’ll then craft and curate your unique, humanist wedding ceremony, weaving in warmth, joy and a sprinkling of humour. It will feel authentic to you both, flowing between storytelling and symbolism, brimming with celebration. I always aim for feel-good & fabulous on the first attempt, but I’m committed to it being the perfect reflection of you. So if you need it changed to be your ideal wedding ceremony, let me know...I’ll make sure it’s just right in time for your big day!
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On the day, I’ll be at your wedding venue early to make sure we’re all set. I’ll check in with photographers, venue staff, musicians and readers. I’ll also be there to reassure you both. Then, I’ll host your unique, feel-good, non-traditional wedding ceremony, kicking off your fabulous day and your fabulous marriage!
Here comes the legal bit…
Currently, celebrant ceremonies in England are not legally recognised, but don’t despair! You can still have a fabulous, personalised ceremony!
To also be legally married, or civil partnered;
You’ll need to pop to a registry office to say the 'legally required words'.
The easiest and cheapest(!) option is a statutory ceremony, for around £50.
You can do this before or after your celebrant ceremony.
I can advise you on the options, or check out my blog post…
“Kathryn made everything about our wedding ceremony so special and unique to us... The ceremony was a magical moment!”
-J & T, South East London
So, you love the idea of a non-traditional ceremony, but you still have some questions about how it all works….
We’re not religious but some of our family are, will you make sure they feel comfortable?
Absolutely! it’s my job to make sure that everyone feels welcome! A Humanist ceremony is non-religious in nature but welcoming to all. Humanism is just about being guided by compassion and reason, thinking for yourself, yet acting for others. Whether your guests follow a faith, or not, they’ll be equally welcome and valued.
Do you lead ceremonies for couples from LGBTQIA+ Communities?
Yes!! I celebrate love in all its glories and actively stand up with and for lovers from the LGBTQIA+ community. I’m delighted to officiate at weddings of people of any sex or gender in any combination!
Is a humanist wedding ceremony legally recognised?
At the moment, humanist weddings are sadly not legally recognised in England or Wales. They’ve been recognised in Scotland since 2005 and are now legally recognised in Jersey and Northern Ireland. Don’t despair! You can still have a feel-good, fabulous personalised wedding! I can advise on how you can obtain a statutory legal registration from your local register office for usually around £50. You say all the legally required words, but you don’t have to include any of the ‘wedding-y’ bits unless you want to. You can do this in the days, weeks or even months running up to your ceremony with me, or even on the day itself. I’m happy to help you figure out the right plan for you.
Want to know more about Humanism and humanist weddings?
Can we involve our pets in our civil partnership or wedding ceremony?
Errrr…Yes, please! If you're anything like me you'll definitely consider your pets to be absolutely part of your family. and as such, you might want to involve them in your wedding ceremony - if they’ll let you!
I can help you think about different ways that you could do this. It's really important to think about your pet's personality and how they're going to feel happy, safe and secure.
Here are just a few ideas… Walkies down the aisle, a paw-fect ring bearer, furry company in the wedding ceremony space, or, if they can’t be there in paw-son, why not at least have them mentioned in your ceremony…
We need to consider disabled people’s access & inclusion for our ceremony, can you help?
100%! I create civil partnership and wedding ceremonies that are inclusive for all couples and all people. I know from personal experience that the ‘average wedding’ often poses challenges or barriers for some people, making them feel ‘less than fabulous’ or even downright excluded. With 15 years of professional experience in inclusive participation and a lifetime of understanding, I will make sure that your ceremony is accessible to everyone involved.
What areas do you cover for wedding and civil partnership ceremonies?
I mainly lead wedding ceremonies across London and the South of England. This helps me to use public transport as a way of keeping my business as sustainable as I can. However - I’m always up for trying a new train line or even better a bus! So, If you're further afield or planning an overseas civil partnership or wedding ceremony drop me a line, I’m always very happy to travel if I can!
Start your day with a wedding ceremony that truly reflects you, and set the tone for your celebration and your lives together.
There’s nothing more feel-good and fabulous than celebrating your love in a non-traditional civil partnership or wedding ceremony that’s unique to you, in a place that feels absolutely right, supported by everyone that matters.
Let’s make it happen.
I cannot wait to work with you as your wedding celebrant and to make your unique, relaxed ceremony a reality.
